When it comes to dating someone, do you have a list of standards he must meet? I recently read a blog post from Hello Giggles with tips about dating smartly. I do think it’s best to have standards when it comes to dating. Not saying you should expect each guy to fulfill all your standards. Just pay attention to his mannerisms.I have a few friends that are single, that tell me all about their experiences with guys: from online dating, bars or even at the grocery story. I hear that, “he’s not that tall”, “he’s grungy looking”, “he’s a musician”, “he drives a nice car”, “I just don’t know if he is right for me?”.
I found myself wondering; do we really know our type? Have you ever felt a guy was totally beneath you? Did you give him a shot or did you turn him down? What about the guy that was intimidating because of his job and social circle? If so, did he cause you to have insecurities in the relationship?
Emotional insecurity is a horrible feeling. It makes you feel vulnerable, self-conscious and nervous. This can cause us to lack confidence within ourselves, which can intern draw us to someone who is not deserving. No amount of money, gifts, or a new boyfriend can satisfy you completely. You must love yourself first. You have to protect yourself, and by doing this you have to love you. Just like Hello giggles stated “Even if you’re single forever, the self-love and respect you will cultivate for yourself will bring you more happiness than anything else.” This means practice making yourself happy. When you do get in a new relationship, you’re not searching for validation from someone else. You will already know what makes you happy, your turn on’s and turn off’s, and how to give without expecting anything in return.
Do things that make you happy daily. Pat yourself on the back when you accomplish a task, or had a great day at work. Smile often and stimulate your mind, body, and soul daily.
“You have to stand for something, or you’ll fall for everything.” Know your self-worth.
- Relationships: Know What You Want and Need (mukeshbalani.wordpress.com)
- Jealousy, Insecurity and depression (prayingforoneday.wordpress.com)
- Insecurity in Relationships (youuniversityonline.com)