Could You Handle A Platonic Relationship With The Opposite Sex?

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Let’s say you’re currently in a relationship with someone, you met someone new. You’re attracted to this person; you also don’t want the chemistry between the two of you to diminish. Could you have a platonic relationship with them? Just the other day I was walking down the street and a guy approached me asking if I could exchange numbers with him. I wasn’t into him so I simply replied that I was already in a relationship and there would be no need for me to give him my number. He then says ” Well I could be your buddy and we can simply just hang out”. This lead me to think. Would it be possible to be in a committed relationship, and another relationship with the opposite sex? Grant it we all interact with the opposite sex daily; I’m talking about someone you might have feelings for. I just don’t think I’ll be able to control myself from the alluring thoughts that would come to mind. Would I tell my significant other about them? Or do I keep it a secret fearful of potentially alarming them?

Situations like these pretty much can lead toward destroying a good relationship. Ever hear the old phrase “If it seems too good to be true, it probably is”? If you have strong willpower and know you could handle a position as such, than by all means do your thing. I on the other hand can’t take a risk playing with fire. I’ve learned from past mistakes trying to juggle multiple relationships. It’s too time consuming, plus you can’t give the one that matters all your attention. Have a friend of the opposite sex, but make sure they’re not someone you secretly wish you could see naked. Have boundaries with them, making sure there are lines that can’t be crossed. Example, not seeing each other getting undressed, no hugging below the waist, and they must get along with your significant other. You don’t want someone preying on you while you’re confiding in them, and they’re giving you malice information so they can slide right in. Just be careful with whom you call a friend and watch out for frenemies!

Have you ever dealt with a platonic relationship? Please share a story.


3 thoughts on “Could You Handle A Platonic Relationship With The Opposite Sex?

    disconcerted72 said:
    January 31, 2014 at 9:53 am

    I’ve had some really great friendships with the opposite gender and there was always a possibility that something could happen, but there was also the chance that I could have lost the friendship. For me, I always wanted that deep connection with a woman, without the tension of a relationship. Granted, when I met the woman, who later became my wife, she was pretty opinionated on the guy-girl relationship thing will eventually end up in sex…so, to maintain peace in the household, I severed my female friendships.

    I regret that to this day…

    But then again, I’m a different kind of person than most guys.

      breakawaybabes said:
      January 31, 2014 at 9:02 pm

      Wow. Sounds as if you could tell us much much more about your story. Why do you regret your decision?

        disconcerted72 said:
        January 31, 2014 at 9:32 pm

        Well, it’s really quite simple: giving up my friendships did not result in marital bliss…
        But there is plenty to tell about my story, for sure.

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