Ever wonder if the reason you’re single is due to your attitude? Sometimes we tend to put the blame on others, without self-assessing ourselves. Characteristics of proactive vs reactive women:
Do you express what you want or Hope someone can read your mind?
Are you trying to find a solution or Adding to the problem?
Do you support others or tell them they’ll never make it?
Do you have your own hobbies or act needy for attention?
Are you looking for an equal partner or a support system?
No man is looking for a woman who can’t supportive of his dreams. He needs to feel needed, appreciated and able to count on you when times get tough. If you’re always nagging about this or that why would he want a relationship with you? You need to have your own hobbies to keep busy and focus on bettering the relationship. If it be financially, spiritually, or personal growth. When you become too needy for attention you’re consuming up too much of someone else life and become a burden. Learn how to express yourself when you want something. No one and I repeat no one is a mind reader. Yes, some believe in psychics, but I doubt you’re dating one. Had a rough day at work? Talk about it so you’re not boggling your emotions. It’s best you’re a drama-free woman and not a drama-queen.
How do you know if you’re dating a drama-queen? Leave a comment below and I can help you figure it out!
Good friends are hard to find, solid ones are rare, and trusting them can be challenging. When you have supportive friends that you can call on in your life it’s a blessing. Feeling overwhelmed and lonely, I reached out to a childhood friend to console me. As soon as my girlfriend picked up and asked how I was, she immediately knew I wasn’t doing well. I started crying. I knew I could release my emotions to her without judgement. I told her through sobs and tears what was bothering me. She listened and right away I felt better. She told me “you’re a strong woman, and people think you can handle everything because you’re strong, I’m sorry I haven’t been there for you and I will do better.” Hearing those words made me realize how much I missed her being in my life and why she’s one of my best friends. She understands me and knows that I’m a sensitive person, who needs a little love every now and then. As women we carry our stress as weight on our shoulders; fearing if we express ourselves others will twist our emotions and use them against us.
I’m very thankful to have true friends in my life. They helped me develop who I am today. Even when we think we don’t want to worry others with our problems, it’s best to reconnect with your loved ones. Encourage each other and support one another. That one phone call helped bring my confidence back and I felt loved again. I thank the special people in my life who support me and believe in me. You guys mean the world to me. To my followers who read my blog posts, thank you for the support and I pray I will help you in anyway I can when you need someone to relate to. We might not know each other, but we’re dealing with the same challenges in life. Let’s work on them together!
Who do you lean on when you need a heart to heart?
We’re all blessed with many talents. It’s up to us to use them wisely. In honor of Dr Martin Luther King, I’m sharing his famous speech “I have a dream”. Dream big, go for what you want in life, and never let anyone tell you it’s not possible.
“For it is God who works in you to will and to act according to his good purpose. Do everything without complaining or arguing, so that you may become blameless and pure, children of God without fault in a crooked and depraved generation, in which you shine like stars in the universe” Philippians 4:13-15
Are you surrounded by friends or frenemies? You know the ones that claim they’re your best friend til the end. Until they get behind your back, then they’re dragging your name in the mud. Telling all your secrets while smiling in your face. Yeah, they are who we call “frenemy friends”. Some people can’t be real with others; in addition to thriving off of someone else’s misery. You have to pay attention to the warning signs from these spiteful people. A few malicious characteristics I’ve noticed are: always asking about your business and never telling you theirs. The one that sits in the background scooping out what everyone else is doing. They let you leave the house looking a hot mess without telling you it’s not a good idea. Or they’re hitting on your significant other when you’re not looking.
A real friend is someone you trust, that’s there when you need them. Someone that never allows anyone to talk bad about you when you’re not around. They want to see you do well in life. They are supportive, understanding, caring, loving, and forgiving. You share your hopes and dreams with them. True friends will tell you it’s not a good idea dyeing your hair blonde because it’s the latest trend. They have their own identities; without emulating yours.
” Make new friends, but keep the old; one is silver and the other is gold.”-Susan J. Ellis. Hold on to those friends that sticks closer to you than a brother. Have girls night with them frequently. Even if you don’t live in the same city or state with your true friends. It’s never too late to connect with them and tell them you love them. Spread love people, not hate.
“For he that is not against us is for us”-Luke 9:50
How many true friends can you say you have in your life?
A new year is just around the corner and people start planning their New Year Resolutions. Most choose: losing weight, a career change, new hairstyle, quitting smoking, and finally taking a vacation. Unlike the common choices, how about some realistic changes that will help with progressing your strengths and working on your weaknesses. I like to write out a list of my Top 25 Do’s or Dont’s. Like 25 ways to get you that new job, steps you’re going to take to lose weight, what you did wrong or right in your current-past relationship. Anything that you feel will improve yourself in preparation for the new year.
Here’s my list:
- Stay consistent with my blog
- Use my reminders on my phone more
- Learn to take constructive criticism
- Cut back on eating deserts
- Get regular teeth cleanings
- Join a book club
- Stay consistent with my vitamins
- Save more money
- Stop procrastinating and just do it
- Play with make-up more (I hardly ever wear make-up)
- Use public transportation when available (Gas is so high ugh)
- Meditate for 10 minutes each day
- Actively get involved with more social media sites
- Get rid of clothes in my closet, that I know I am not ever going to wear
- Workout 5 days a week
- Learn Spanish
- Volunteer my time more to a charity
- Call my family more
- Write a to do list everyday
- Be an even better girlfriend
- Use my cooking books more
- Manage my time better
- Lose 10 pounds
- New stamp in my passport
- Get that tattoo I have always wanted.
As you see my list is pretty much all over the place but these are the things that I want to carry out in 2014. I suggest printing them out and posting them somewhere you can see daily. Once you complete some of your goals mark them off to show yourself how awesome you are for completing it. Doing these steps towards becoming the new-you will give you peace of mind, improve your health, gain more productivity, and help you reach your goals. What do you look forward to working towards next year?