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The Struggle Is Real

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This year so many people I know have been struggling in difficult situations. I’m one of them. Balancing life, love, blogging, relationships, friends, and not having time for myself. A few weeks ago I meet the CEO of my current job along with a few other co-workers. She was asked ” How do you balance your work with having a family?”. Her answer was, ” I don’t think you really want to hear this answer, because there is no balance. You just figure out how to deal with both at the same time. You live and you learn from previous mistakes.” Hearing those words helped me out tremendously, because I’m struggling with not having enough time for me.

I’m working over 50 hours a week, and when the weekend comes have a pile of errands that all need to get done. Then I wonder how am I going to have time for friends or just pampering myself with a mani-pedi? A lot of people depend on my fortitude to help get them through difficult situations. I understand the blessing I have as their motivator. Now I’m wondering if I’ll ever be able to reach a certain point in life where everything comes easy without the unfortunate lack of will power.

I pray daily for the strength to get through worries, and for guidance to make the best decisions, then thank the man above for all the blessings I have.  Seems everyone I’ve been coming across has burdens. But we can’t lose our faith. Believe it, there is light at the end of the tunnel. This too shall pass and we will be able to get through these tough times. I work on becoming a better person daily and I’m not quitting! So our new mantra will be ” The struggle is real, but I will prevail.”

Are you dealing with hard times in life right now? If so how are you getting through them?

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Date Rape Drugs

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Did you know these facts about rape in the U.S.?

1. Low estimate of the number of women, according to the Department of Justice, raped every year: 300,000.

2. High estimate of the number of women raped: 1.3 million.

3. Percentage of rapes not reported: 54 percent.

A popular method used to subdue victims is a date rape drug. These drugs are powerful and dangerous. They can be slipped into your drink when you’re not looking. The drugs often have no color, smell, or taste. They make you weak and confused or even pass out. Three of the most common date rape drugs are Rohypnol, GHB, and Ketamine. These drugs are also known as “club drugs” because they tend to be used at dance clubs, concerts, and raves. The effect of these drugs can be felt as soon as 15 minutes, and last for several hours.

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How to protect yourself from becoming a victim: not accepting drinks from other people, keeping your drink with you at all times, open containers yourself, go with the person that offers to get you a drink, and don’t drink anything that tastes or smells strange. We all would like to trust people when dealing with strangers and socializing, but this could lead to a traumatic situation.

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If you’ve ever faced this situation and need someone to talk to about it call the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 800-656-HOPE. When going out, bring someone you can trust with you. Protect yourself while having a good time.

Learn How To Meditate

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Do you know how to meditate? When we escape from our thoughts and concerns, we’re allowing ourselves to bring stillness to our minds. This is known as meditation. Meditating can be very challenging to master. We’re all capable of accomplishing by practicing. Understand, meditation is a journey. The purpose is to calm the mind, achieve inter peace, and reach a higher spiritual dimension. You don’t necessary have to sit in a dark room for an hour to reap the benefits of relaxation. You can train your mind to focus solely on your breathing when you need to bring stillness to your thoughts. Start by inhaling deeply, follow by exhaling with the same flow. Bringing your attention solely on your breath, feel your chest raise and fall while your lungs expand and deflate. If your minds starts to wonder with distracting thoughts, channel them by chanting a mantra of choice. Silently repeat the mantra over and over to yourself as you meditate, allowing the word or phrase to whisper through your mind.

For those who are new to meditation, it’s especially important to avoid distractions while practicing. Turn off the TV, your phone, and remove yourself from loud noises. You can listen to calming music or the sound of a small water fountain running. Your meditation space does not need completely silent. All you need is the ability to concentrate on yourself for how ever long you choose to meditate. You should try and meditate at the same time every day. This way your meditation will quickly become a part of your everyday routine and you will feel its benefits much more profoundly.

Join me everyday this week tracking your experiences with meditation. Let us know what benefits you have seen.

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30 Minute Workout

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Hey guys! Let’s get a 30 minute workout done to start our week off right! Here’s what I’ll be doing this morning. Join me and let me know what you thought about this routine.

P.S Don’t forget about your Protein shake…

Searching For Attention

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Browsing through Instagram yesterday; I came across a picture that got me thinking. How important is it to have meaningful relationships? By, not just dealing with people to seem cool, but having tangible relationships with them. I see so many people posting images, seeking attention for all the wrong reasons. Attention is a helluva drug. We all want it; but at what cost? Do we risk losing our self-worth or degrade ourselves for it? Humans need their ego’s boosted. We thrive off feeling important. You have to differentiate between meaningful attention vs. popularity attention. Ask yourself: what are you really gaining from likes from strangers on your exposed photos? Or, are you seeking likes to help boost your confidence?

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Focusing on if you get likes on your photos only weakens your confidence. “Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder”, which means what you see as beautiful someone else might not understand your vision. Have people in your life that will support you and your dreams by helping you reach them. Not by showing off your body to strangers on Instagram for popularity. But, by pushing you to stay on the right path to reach your goals. If you’re seeking attention, try finding it through people whom are driven and determined to get success. Find friends that are working towards their dreams, so they can influence you to work towards yours. Be a positive influence in life by showing the world your achievements, not by revealing how great you look naked. Trust me ladies, men like women that’s driven with goals. Yes, they like to chase after women that come easy, but keep in mind. Easy come easy go.

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Always Do Your Best

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Dealing with a head cold last week; I had to push myself to keep going each day. I wanted to stay in bed and sleep the sickness away. Boy do I wish I was rich enough to just shut off my phone, ignore my emails, and forget about all my bills. Unfortunately that’s not my life and I have to work when I’m sick. I used a lot of mental strength to get me through each day, determined to do my best as if I was healthy. Telling myself this too shall past and I’ll be back to my normal self soon enough. Thinking positively about my sickness and how this will only make me stronger. If I can continue to do my best I’ll prove to myself that I can do what ever I set my mind to. 

I’m about 90% better. My love for seeing myself succeed is undeniable and I’m not stopping until, I can ignore my emails or the world because I’ll have freedom of time and money.

“Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.”-Miguel Ruiz

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Start Each Day With A Clean Slate

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Yesterday is now in our past. Today is our current future, and tomorrow is not promised to us. Keeping a clear mind each day will open opportunity in our lives.  If you had a rough night, but were blessed to wake up to a new day. You have another chance to make a change. Start this week off with positive ways you can make a difference in your life. Let go of yesterdays baggage and open good fortune towards your future.

Starting today and carrying throughout the rest of our lives. Let go of useless clutter in your mind. Begin with a healthy breakfast to start your day.  Planning ahead. Organize your schedule with a to-do list. Arrive at work ahead of time to get a jump-start on your work load. Maybe even a 10 minute meditation before you start answering your emails, or driving to drop your kids off at school. It’s very important you take time for yourself to clear out unproductive thoughts.

You hold the key to your success. Don’t allow another day to pass without grabbing a hold of yourself and shaking off the negativity. We’re all born with many talents. We just need to bring out our gifts. It starts with a clear mind!

How do you plan on starting your Monday me?

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What’s Your Fantasy?

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Treat Yo Self Day

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Valentine’s day is one of the busiest nights to dine out. It’s ok if you don’t have a date this year to celebrate. I have some nifty ideas to occupy your mind. Instead of sitting at home moping on why you’re single or how much you hate your ex. Why not spend the time treating yourself? You can take yourself to the movies, quiet time at a spa, or shopping. This day is not just for couples. It’s all about love and we should all know by now, you can’t truly love someone else if you don’t love yourself first.

Switch things up this year by spending time with your single friends. Compliment each other, tell one another how awesome they are and why they’re important to you. There’s nothing wrong with buying yourself flowers. If you want them, go get them and smell those roses. Just keep in mind you hold the key to your happiness and sometimes we have to make ourselves happy by treating ourselves with gifts or a little R&R. We should be spreading love everyday! (I digress)

If you want to change a disheartened past into a celebration, here are a few tips:
1. Spa date
2. Go to the movies
3. Treat yourself to something special
4. Hit up a bar and socialize
5. Karaoke
6. Party at your place with your single friends
7. Mani-Pedi
8. Accomplish one of your goals
9. Organize something you’ve been putting off
10. Bubble bath with a glass of wine and candles

 

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If you’re single let us know what’s your plans for Valentine’s day.