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Poll Results For “What’s Your Fantasy”

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The results are in ladies and gentlemen. 33% of people voted that adding toys into their bedroom was most desirable. A two-way tie goes to prolonged foreplay and role playing at 25%. Last but not least came 17% for random places. Why do you think most people choose add toys into there sexual needs. Is it because some are feeling they’re looking for a little added sensation while having sex? Could it be that sex toys help their partner climax? Or do you feel incorporating kinky toys in the bedroom is just more fun?

Let us know how you feel about adding toys into your bedroom. Does it play a major role for you and your partner?

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Searching For Attention

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Browsing through Instagram yesterday; I came across a picture that got me thinking. How important is it to have meaningful relationships? By, not just dealing with people to seem cool, but having tangible relationships with them. I see so many people posting images, seeking attention for all the wrong reasons. Attention is a helluva drug. We all want it; but at what cost? Do we risk losing our self-worth or degrade ourselves for it? Humans need their ego’s boosted. We thrive off feeling important. You have to differentiate between meaningful attention vs. popularity attention. Ask yourself: what are you really gaining from likes from strangers on your exposed photos? Or, are you seeking likes to help boost your confidence?

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Focusing on if you get likes on your photos only weakens your confidence. “Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder”, which means what you see as beautiful someone else might not understand your vision. Have people in your life that will support you and your dreams by helping you reach them. Not by showing off your body to strangers on Instagram for popularity. But, by pushing you to stay on the right path to reach your goals. If you’re seeking attention, try finding it through people whom are driven and determined to get success. Find friends that are working towards their dreams, so they can influence you to work towards yours. Be a positive influence in life by showing the world your achievements, not by revealing how great you look naked. Trust me ladies, men like women that’s driven with goals. Yes, they like to chase after women that come easy, but keep in mind. Easy come easy go.

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What’s Your Fantasy?

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Could You Handle A Platonic Relationship With The Opposite Sex?

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Let’s say you’re currently in a relationship with someone, you met someone new. You’re attracted to this person; you also don’t want the chemistry between the two of you to diminish. Could you have a platonic relationship with them? Just the other day I was walking down the street and a guy approached me asking if I could exchange numbers with him. I wasn’t into him so I simply replied that I was already in a relationship and there would be no need for me to give him my number. He then says ” Well I could be your buddy and we can simply just hang out”. This lead me to think. Would it be possible to be in a committed relationship, and another relationship with the opposite sex? Grant it we all interact with the opposite sex daily; I’m talking about someone you might have feelings for. I just don’t think I’ll be able to control myself from the alluring thoughts that would come to mind. Would I tell my significant other about them? Or do I keep it a secret fearful of potentially alarming them?

Situations like these pretty much can lead toward destroying a good relationship. Ever hear the old phrase “If it seems too good to be true, it probably is”? If you have strong willpower and know you could handle a position as such, than by all means do your thing. I on the other hand can’t take a risk playing with fire. I’ve learned from past mistakes trying to juggle multiple relationships. It’s too time consuming, plus you can’t give the one that matters all your attention. Have a friend of the opposite sex, but make sure they’re not someone you secretly wish you could see naked. Have boundaries with them, making sure there are lines that can’t be crossed. Example, not seeing each other getting undressed, no hugging below the waist, and they must get along with your significant other. You don’t want someone preying on you while you’re confiding in them, and they’re giving you malice information so they can slide right in. Just be careful with whom you call a friend and watch out for frenemies!

Have you ever dealt with a platonic relationship? Please share a story.

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THE HEAD PUSH GAME

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Has this ever happened to you? Share your story similar to this one and how you handled the situation.

The People I Have Slept With.

Our relationship was over, not technically, but we both knew it was only a matter of time. We tried our best to hide our pain during our friends graduation party, but with every beer I grew more annoyed. It got to the point where every single thing he did or said drove me insane. I was mad at him for breathing, yes breathing.. as if he could somehow stop. His laugh sent chills up my spine and his jokes were not longer funny. Unfortunately the alcohol had the opposite effect on him. Tripping over his feet and slurring his speech he begged me to go to his car to “talk.” I sat there looking down awkwardly, as I explained to him how I felt. He placed his hand on the top of my head and slightly rubbed my scalp, consoling me, but all I could think was YOU’RE MESSING UP MY…

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How Deep Is Your Love?

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Ever feel so deeply in love that you start to lose focus? Maybe you’re in a marriage, committed relationship, or dating someone new. Your brain can interfere with staying focused. Recently I read an article from Men’s Health that breaks down how your body reacts when you’re near your Boo. You can check it out here. After reading I recalled those times I actually felt butterflies in my stomach. An anxious, nervous feeling around the person I was crushing on. Re-checking myself in the mirror, making sure lipstick wasn’t smeared on my teeth or tart breath. Focusing on my exterior and not my interior, I blocked my natural attributes to shine. Didn’t realize I was displaying signs of insecurity not confidence. I’m sure I ran a few guys off from potentially pursuing a relationship.
If you ask me today how deep is my love? I’ll say the love I have for myself is unbreakable. I know I can’t expect someone to love me if I truly don’t love myself. Yes, I learned the hard way when it comes to dating and it was well worth it. I now love everyone in my life deeply, the good and the bad. But I don’t expect anyone to love me as much as I love myself. All I ask is to respect me and love me for my flaws and all. No longer feel the need to over compensate for my shortcomings. I’m opening up other sides of me for others to like/love. I’m silly without worry of judgement. Able to cry without hiding my tears. I’m human and a woman that’s connected to her emotional side. So love deep, but love yourself first.”Have a perfect love for imperfect people”

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Put Down The Phone And Get Your Boogie On

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Ever feel too tired to take part in work related social gatherings? Well that was me today. Invited to hang out with my co-workers after work for some fun and networking. Not just a drink at a local bar, but a line dancing country theme shindig. Thinking about those thousand other things I need to do when I get home. I tried to weasel my way out of going. My supervisor suggested we play rock, paper, scissor. If he wins I go and if I win I get to go home. I lost!

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Having to overcome not being able to go home, I made the best out of my evening. We meet up at a really cool grilled cheese sandwich joint. Dope decor with portraits of celebrities mounted on the wall resembling them eating cheese. Some of my co-workers came ready for line dancing and dressed the part. While we munched on cheesy sandwiches we were able to catch up on each others day. I even learned a helpful tip from someone I’ve never talked to before because we’re in two different parts of the office.

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Do you know how to line dance, because I don’t. Opting out of the lesson, because I was just trying to get one drink and go, I was able to see many people sitting and looking only at their cell phones. Not socializing with anyone, a straight face, and a drink in hand. I find it weird now that humans have such a hard time putting their cell phones away and enjoying what’s going on around them. As if its not attached to our hands what would we possibly do? Some of us wanted to watch and the others were super excited to get wasted and dance. The venue had a live band playing, inviting you to join in on the dance floor to get your boogie on. This is why I think instead of having a coat check, owners should have a no cell phone policy. Maybe this will force people to start having fun again and forget about what others are doing somewhere else. Before Facebook or Twitter, what were you doing when you went out?

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Hot Hollywood Sex

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Ever watch a love scene in a movie and wish it was you? One of my top sex scenes happens to be from the movie “Belly”. Starring actors: DMX (Tommy), Nas (Sincere), Taral Hicks (Kisha), Tionne Watkins (Tionne), Method Man (Shemeek), and a few other. Taral Hicks played actor DMX girlfriend, and Tionne Watkins played as Nas woman. Tommy and Sincere were two street criminals running a drug dealing empire in New York City. Of course when you have a high rolling drug dealer as your boyfriend you’re going to suspect him to have groupies around. Kisha played a confident character whom didn’t take any BS. She decides to go thru Tommy’s pager while he was showering. Deciding to call a number in his pager, she reached a younger girl on the other end of the receiver. The young lady explains to Kisha that she hasn’t had sex with Tommy yet, because he told her she’s too young. She has sucked his dick a few time though. At this point Kisha is livid and hangs up the telephone, walks aggressively into the bathroom where Tommy was showering. (Oh don’t let me forget to mention the director shows a naked DMX shower scene). What a nice looking specimen. Kisha screams at Tommy demanding for him to explain who was the girl, before leaving out of the bathroom upset. Tommy rushes out the shower without a towel after Kisha and forcefully grabs her. Shaking her a little trying to explain that he was innocent. While Kisha cried in Tommy’s arms he aggressively kisses Kisha and begins to rip off her clothes. Throwing her on the bed in a brute like behavior. Growling as he vigorously gives it to Kisha. Once they finished Tommy get’s up and gets dress as Kisha lays in bed looking satisfied and at peace for the moment.

Ignoring the fact he used sex to shut her up. I got excited he handled her in a robustly way. Taking control of her by using his strength to please her sexual needs. As a woman I sometimes like for a man to take the lead without me having to say what I want. Even though Kisha didn’t say she wanted to have sex with Tommy. He knew right then and there how to shut her up and give himself to her. I’m not saying what he did was right or wrong, I’m just saying sometimes it’s good to just have wild animal style sex when you’re bothered.

Do you have a favorite love scene from a movie? If so, due share.

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Keep It Classy Not Trashy

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“All the single ladies, all the single ladies. Put your hands up!” Beyonce song “Single ladies” gave us girls a new perspective on dating. Telling us if we’re in a relationship and he likes us, it’s time to put a ring on our fingers. Even for the single ladies out there looking for a new relationships; with hopes of becoming someones future wife. Dating now is so difficult. Some of us are so tired of the lying, cheating man, we’d rather be alone. Some women have a hard time being alone and need to jump right back into a relationship faster than they closed the last one. The quality of dating is not how it was when my parents used to date each other. People had more respect for the other person. Now, all I’m hearing is “When can we have sex, or I’m not looking for a committed relationship.” How can we change this way of thinking when it comes to dating? I think it starts with us ladies, by showing men we’re marriage material and not just someone to do.

When we go out at night dressed to impress. We should not only show men we’re good-looking. We need to show them we have standards too. I see too many girls competing for attention from men giving off the wrong signals. Boyfriend hunting sometimes can come off as desperation. Which is a huge turn off for both species. No one likes a pushy person whom can’t handle separation. Accept the attention without trying so hard to hold on to it. Set the tone you deserve respect. Ladies, it’s time to take the reigns when it comes to dating. Let’s show these guys we’re ready for a committed relationship with a deserving gentlemen. Confidence is key for having a better social life and relationship.

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For all the single ladies, tell us your experiences with dating. Do you agree with my opinions?