Who are your true friends?
Browsing through Instagram yesterday; I came across a picture that got me thinking. How important is it to have meaningful relationships? By, not just dealing with people to seem cool, but having tangible relationships with them. I see so many people posting images, seeking attention for all the wrong reasons. Attention is a helluva drug. We all want it; but at what cost? Do we risk losing our self-worth or degrade ourselves for it? Humans need their ego’s boosted. We thrive off feeling important. You have to differentiate between meaningful attention vs. popularity attention. Ask yourself: what are you really gaining from likes from strangers on your exposed photos? Or, are you seeking likes to help boost your confidence?
Focusing on if you get likes on your photos only weakens your confidence. “Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder”, which means what you see as beautiful someone else might not understand your vision. Have people in your life that will support you and your dreams by helping you reach them. Not by showing off your body to strangers on Instagram for popularity. But, by pushing you to stay on the right path to reach your goals. If you’re seeking attention, try finding it through people whom are driven and determined to get success. Find friends that are working towards their dreams, so they can influence you to work towards yours. Be a positive influence in life by showing the world your achievements, not by revealing how great you look naked. Trust me ladies, men like women that’s driven with goals. Yes, they like to chase after women that come easy, but keep in mind. Easy come easy go.
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Let’s say you’re currently in a relationship with someone, you met someone new. You’re attracted to this person; you also don’t want the chemistry between the two of you to diminish. Could you have a platonic relationship with them? Just the other day I was walking down the street and a guy approached me asking if I could exchange numbers with him. I wasn’t into him so I simply replied that I was already in a relationship and there would be no need for me to give him my number. He then says ” Well I could be your buddy and we can simply just hang out”. This lead me to think. Would it be possible to be in a committed relationship, and another relationship with the opposite sex? Grant it we all interact with the opposite sex daily; I’m talking about someone you might have feelings for. I just don’t think I’ll be able to control myself from the alluring thoughts that would come to mind. Would I tell my significant other about them? Or do I keep it a secret fearful of potentially alarming them?
Situations like these pretty much can lead toward destroying a good relationship. Ever hear the old phrase “If it seems too good to be true, it probably is”? If you have strong willpower and know you could handle a position as such, than by all means do your thing. I on the other hand can’t take a risk playing with fire. I’ve learned from past mistakes trying to juggle multiple relationships. It’s too time consuming, plus you can’t give the one that matters all your attention. Have a friend of the opposite sex, but make sure they’re not someone you secretly wish you could see naked. Have boundaries with them, making sure there are lines that can’t be crossed. Example, not seeing each other getting undressed, no hugging below the waist, and they must get along with your significant other. You don’t want someone preying on you while you’re confiding in them, and they’re giving you malice information so they can slide right in. Just be careful with whom you call a friend and watch out for frenemies!
Have you ever dealt with a platonic relationship? Please share a story.
Ever feel too tired to take part in work related social gatherings? Well that was me today. Invited to hang out with my co-workers after work for some fun and networking. Not just a drink at a local bar, but a line dancing country theme shindig. Thinking about those thousand other things I need to do when I get home. I tried to weasel my way out of going. My supervisor suggested we play rock, paper, scissor. If he wins I go and if I win I get to go home. I lost!
Having to overcome not being able to go home, I made the best out of my evening. We meet up at a really cool grilled cheese sandwich joint. Dope decor with portraits of celebrities mounted on the wall resembling them eating cheese. Some of my co-workers came ready for line dancing and dressed the part. While we munched on cheesy sandwiches we were able to catch up on each others day. I even learned a helpful tip from someone I’ve never talked to before because we’re in two different parts of the office.
Do you know how to line dance, because I don’t. Opting out of the lesson, because I was just trying to get one drink and go, I was able to see many people sitting and looking only at their cell phones. Not socializing with anyone, a straight face, and a drink in hand. I find it weird now that humans have such a hard time putting their cell phones away and enjoying what’s going on around them. As if its not attached to our hands what would we possibly do? Some of us wanted to watch and the others were super excited to get wasted and dance. The venue had a live band playing, inviting you to join in on the dance floor to get your boogie on. This is why I think instead of having a coat check, owners should have a no cell phone policy. Maybe this will force people to start having fun again and forget about what others are doing somewhere else. Before Facebook or Twitter, what were you doing when you went out?
“All the single ladies, all the single ladies. Put your hands up!” Beyonce song “Single ladies” gave us girls a new perspective on dating. Telling us if we’re in a relationship and he likes us, it’s time to put a ring on our fingers. Even for the single ladies out there looking for a new relationships; with hopes of becoming someones future wife. Dating now is so difficult. Some of us are so tired of the lying, cheating man, we’d rather be alone. Some women have a hard time being alone and need to jump right back into a relationship faster than they closed the last one. The quality of dating is not how it was when my parents used to date each other. People had more respect for the other person. Now, all I’m hearing is “When can we have sex, or I’m not looking for a committed relationship.” How can we change this way of thinking when it comes to dating? I think it starts with us ladies, by showing men we’re marriage material and not just someone to do.
When we go out at night dressed to impress. We should not only show men we’re good-looking. We need to show them we have standards too. I see too many girls competing for attention from men giving off the wrong signals. Boyfriend hunting sometimes can come off as desperation. Which is a huge turn off for both species. No one likes a pushy person whom can’t handle separation. Accept the attention without trying so hard to hold on to it. Set the tone you deserve respect. Ladies, it’s time to take the reigns when it comes to dating. Let’s show these guys we’re ready for a committed relationship with a deserving gentlemen. Confidence is key for having a better social life and relationship.
For all the single ladies, tell us your experiences with dating. Do you agree with my opinions?
When was the last time you got together with your girlfriends? With social media so prevalent in our lives, we tend to only see our friends on a computer screen. A good friend of mine suggested a few of us get together at her house for a wine and cheese pairing. She’s a new mother that loves to host gatherings, which she’s very good at. Everyone was responsible to bring a wine of choice and a cheese. This was challenging for me because I’m not drinking any alcohol. I have been really disciplined with my health and fitness, that I kicked alcohol to the curb. I decided to go to Trader Joes and grab a sparkling chardonnay grape juice.
All the woman pitched in assembling the table. Allowing normal girl talk to happen in the kitchen; which is always fun. It seems that every house party I have attend; everyone migrates into the kitchen, nibbling on the food before it gets to the table. A topic that came up was about Facebook pokes. Do you think poking someone else’s husband on Facebook is ok? All of us agreed that poking someone else husband is off-limits.
Once everyone was finish indulging in the food-it was time for games. We played Hedbandz-guessing which celebrity was written on our heads. All in all a good night with the lady’s brought out lots of laughs and even some tears of joy. Of course with liquor it can cause highs and lows when consuming. Telling your close friends how much they mean to you, a secret about how you embarrassed yourself, and your go to favorite lipstick. Girls just want to have fun; and we all need a good core group of friends.
To see the video of our girls night click here
- Why Girls have Girls Nights (agirlguide.wordpress.com)
Social status is very important for our condition of existence. We cater to our image, social circle, and well-being we tend to forget about what’s really important. In order to give yourself the ultimate gratification of self-worth you need to have an active social life. Thursday’s are going to challenge you, to dare yourself to breakout of the norm. Completing goals you started, but didn’t achieve. Get the guy you’ve been stocking, and go for what we want in life. Maintaining your relationships and pleasing your family all at the same time. Here we’ll present tips for accomplishing these ambitions. Join in on Thursday each week for #socialcircle
by Sierra H.
- 6 Tips for Expanding Your Social Circles (lifehack.org)
- How did people branch outside their social circle before the internet (alliepottswrites.wordpress.com)