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Searching For Attention

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Browsing through Instagram yesterday; I came across a picture that got me thinking. How important is it to have meaningful relationships? By, not just dealing with people to seem cool, but having tangible relationships with them. I see so many people posting images, seeking attention for all the wrong reasons. Attention is a helluva drug. We all want it; but at what cost? Do we risk losing our self-worth or degrade ourselves for it? Humans need their ego’s boosted. We thrive off feeling important. You have to differentiate between meaningful attention vs. popularity attention. Ask yourself: what are you really gaining from likes from strangers on your exposed photos? Or, are you seeking likes to help boost your confidence?

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Focusing on if you get likes on your photos only weakens your confidence. “Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder”, which means what you see as beautiful someone else might not understand your vision. Have people in your life that will support you and your dreams by helping you reach them. Not by showing off your body to strangers on Instagram for popularity. But, by pushing you to stay on the right path to reach your goals. If you’re seeking attention, try finding it through people whom are driven and determined to get success. Find friends that are working towards their dreams, so they can influence you to work towards yours. Be a positive influence in life by showing the world your achievements, not by revealing how great you look naked. Trust me ladies, men like women that’s driven with goals. Yes, they like to chase after women that come easy, but keep in mind. Easy come easy go.

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Heart To Heart

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Good friends are hard to find, solid ones are rare, and trusting them can be challenging. When you have supportive friends that you can call on in your life it’s a blessing. Feeling overwhelmed and lonely, I reached out to a childhood friend to console me. As soon as my girlfriend picked up and asked how I was, she immediately knew I wasn’t doing well. I started crying. I knew I could release my emotions to her without judgement. I told her through sobs and tears what was bothering me. She listened and right away I felt better. She told me “you’re a strong woman, and people think you can handle everything because you’re strong, I’m sorry I haven’t been there for you and I will do better.” Hearing those words made me realize how much I missed her being in my life and why she’s one of my best friends. She understands me and knows that I’m a sensitive person, who needs a little love every now and then. As women we carry our stress as weight on our shoulders; fearing if we express ourselves others will twist our emotions and use them against us.

I’m very thankful to have true friends in my life. They helped me develop who I am today. Even when we think we don’t want to worry others with our problems, it’s best to reconnect with your loved ones. Encourage each other and support one another. That one phone call helped bring my confidence back and I felt loved again. I thank the special people in my life who support me and believe in me. You guys mean the world to me. To my followers who read my blog posts, thank you for the support and I pray I will help you in anyway I can when you need someone to relate to. We might not know each other, but we’re dealing with the same challenges in life. Let’s work on them together!

Who do you lean on when you need a heart to heart?

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How Deep Is Your Love?

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Ever feel so deeply in love that you start to lose focus? Maybe you’re in a marriage, committed relationship, or dating someone new. Your brain can interfere with staying focused. Recently I read an article from Men’s Health that breaks down how your body reacts when you’re near your Boo. You can check it out here. After reading I recalled those times I actually felt butterflies in my stomach. An anxious, nervous feeling around the person I was crushing on. Re-checking myself in the mirror, making sure lipstick wasn’t smeared on my teeth or tart breath. Focusing on my exterior and not my interior, I blocked my natural attributes to shine. Didn’t realize I was displaying signs of insecurity not confidence. I’m sure I ran a few guys off from potentially pursuing a relationship.
If you ask me today how deep is my love? I’ll say the love I have for myself is unbreakable. I know I can’t expect someone to love me if I truly don’t love myself. Yes, I learned the hard way when it comes to dating and it was well worth it. I now love everyone in my life deeply, the good and the bad. But I don’t expect anyone to love me as much as I love myself. All I ask is to respect me and love me for my flaws and all. No longer feel the need to over compensate for my shortcomings. I’m opening up other sides of me for others to like/love. I’m silly without worry of judgement. Able to cry without hiding my tears. I’m human and a woman that’s connected to her emotional side. So love deep, but love yourself first.”Have a perfect love for imperfect people”

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Having Friends vs Foes Around You

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Are you surrounded by friends or frenemies? You know the ones that claim they’re your best friend til the end. Until they get behind your back, then they’re dragging your name in the mud. Telling all your secrets while smiling in your face. Yeah, they are who we call “frenemy friends”. Some people can’t be real with others; in addition to thriving off of someone else’s misery. You have to pay attention to the warning signs from these spiteful people. A few malicious characteristics I’ve noticed are: always asking about your business and never telling you theirs. The one that sits in the background scooping out what everyone else is doing. They let you leave the house looking a hot mess without telling you it’s not a good idea. Or they’re hitting on your significant other when you’re not looking.

A real friend is someone you trust, that’s there when you need them. Someone that never allows anyone to talk bad about you when you’re not around. They want to see you do well in life. They are supportive, understanding, caring, loving, and forgiving. You share your hopes and dreams with them. True friends will tell you it’s not a good idea dyeing your hair blonde because it’s the latest trend. They have their own identities; without emulating yours.

” Make new friends, but keep the old; one is silver and the other is gold.”-Susan J. Ellis. Hold on to those friends that sticks closer to you than a brother. Have girls night with them frequently. Even if you don’t live in the same city or state with your true friends. It’s never too late to connect with them and tell them you love them. Spread love people, not hate.

“For he that is not against us is for us”-Luke 9:50

How many true friends can you say you have in your life?

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Fridayship

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Good relationships are hard to find! You must nurture, be selfless, and sometimes lose your pride.. but it’s all worth it. Without these connections, you would not be who you are. In this section we will take time to cover these relationships, by understanding why they help make us who we are. You are born within a circle, but this is something you can’t control. You can’t pick your family, but fortunately, you can pick your friends. We’ll be your support when times are hard, because this is the most challenging aspect of your life. You can’t control other; but you can control yourself. Hashtag #Fridayship

Health and Fitness #MondayMe

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Taking care of yourself should be number one. It is important to feel good about yourself. Focusing on yourself inward helps to create a better exterior. Everyone wants to look good, but feeling good is even more important. This part of the blog will improve both the way you look and feel. Everyone comes up with excuses about why they can not work out or eat well, but the fact of the matter is neither of these really take that much time, it just takes effort and dedication.

We want to be there during this struggle! Making a life change can be extremely challenging, but as long as you have support,  you can do it!  We encourage you to challenge others to make this life change with you. Invite friends, family and co-workers to embark on this journey with you. A little competition makes it almost impossible to quit. Each week we will challenge you to be the best YOU; through: recipes, fitness challenges and activities.  Share your accomplishments with hashtags #Mondayme

by Elise R.