Love

Poll Results For “What’s Your Fantasy”

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The results are in ladies and gentlemen. 33% of people voted that adding toys into their bedroom was most desirable. A two-way tie goes to prolonged foreplay and role playing at 25%. Last but not least came 17% for random places. Why do you think most people choose add toys into there sexual needs. Is it because some are feeling they’re looking for a little added sensation while having sex? Could it be that sex toys help their partner climax? Or do you feel incorporating kinky toys in the bedroom is just more fun?

Let us know how you feel about adding toys into your bedroom. Does it play a major role for you and your partner?

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What’s Your Fantasy?

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Heart To Heart

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Good friends are hard to find, solid ones are rare, and trusting them can be challenging. When you have supportive friends that you can call on in your life it’s a blessing. Feeling overwhelmed and lonely, I reached out to a childhood friend to console me. As soon as my girlfriend picked up and asked how I was, she immediately knew I wasn’t doing well. I started crying. I knew I could release my emotions to her without judgement. I told her through sobs and tears what was bothering me. She listened and right away I felt better. She told me “you’re a strong woman, and people think you can handle everything because you’re strong, I’m sorry I haven’t been there for you and I will do better.” Hearing those words made me realize how much I missed her being in my life and why she’s one of my best friends. She understands me and knows that I’m a sensitive person, who needs a little love every now and then. As women we carry our stress as weight on our shoulders; fearing if we express ourselves others will twist our emotions and use them against us.

I’m very thankful to have true friends in my life. They helped me develop who I am today. Even when we think we don’t want to worry others with our problems, it’s best to reconnect with your loved ones. Encourage each other and support one another. That one phone call helped bring my confidence back and I felt loved again. I thank the special people in my life who support me and believe in me. You guys mean the world to me. To my followers who read my blog posts, thank you for the support and I pray I will help you in anyway I can when you need someone to relate to. We might not know each other, but we’re dealing with the same challenges in life. Let’s work on them together!

Who do you lean on when you need a heart to heart?

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Treat Yo Self Day

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Valentine’s day is one of the busiest nights to dine out. It’s ok if you don’t have a date this year to celebrate. I have some nifty ideas to occupy your mind. Instead of sitting at home moping on why you’re single or how much you hate your ex. Why not spend the time treating yourself? You can take yourself to the movies, quiet time at a spa, or shopping. This day is not just for couples. It’s all about love and we should all know by now, you can’t truly love someone else if you don’t love yourself first.

Switch things up this year by spending time with your single friends. Compliment each other, tell one another how awesome they are and why they’re important to you. There’s nothing wrong with buying yourself flowers. If you want them, go get them and smell those roses. Just keep in mind you hold the key to your happiness and sometimes we have to make ourselves happy by treating ourselves with gifts or a little R&R. We should be spreading love everyday! (I digress)

If you want to change a disheartened past into a celebration, here are a few tips:
1. Spa date
2. Go to the movies
3. Treat yourself to something special
4. Hit up a bar and socialize
5. Karaoke
6. Party at your place with your single friends
7. Mani-Pedi
8. Accomplish one of your goals
9. Organize something you’ve been putting off
10. Bubble bath with a glass of wine and candles

 

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If you’re single let us know what’s your plans for Valentine’s day.

Could You Handle A Platonic Relationship With The Opposite Sex?

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Let’s say you’re currently in a relationship with someone, you met someone new. You’re attracted to this person; you also don’t want the chemistry between the two of you to diminish. Could you have a platonic relationship with them? Just the other day I was walking down the street and a guy approached me asking if I could exchange numbers with him. I wasn’t into him so I simply replied that I was already in a relationship and there would be no need for me to give him my number. He then says ” Well I could be your buddy and we can simply just hang out”. This lead me to think. Would it be possible to be in a committed relationship, and another relationship with the opposite sex? Grant it we all interact with the opposite sex daily; I’m talking about someone you might have feelings for. I just don’t think I’ll be able to control myself from the alluring thoughts that would come to mind. Would I tell my significant other about them? Or do I keep it a secret fearful of potentially alarming them?

Situations like these pretty much can lead toward destroying a good relationship. Ever hear the old phrase “If it seems too good to be true, it probably is”? If you have strong willpower and know you could handle a position as such, than by all means do your thing. I on the other hand can’t take a risk playing with fire. I’ve learned from past mistakes trying to juggle multiple relationships. It’s too time consuming, plus you can’t give the one that matters all your attention. Have a friend of the opposite sex, but make sure they’re not someone you secretly wish you could see naked. Have boundaries with them, making sure there are lines that can’t be crossed. Example, not seeing each other getting undressed, no hugging below the waist, and they must get along with your significant other. You don’t want someone preying on you while you’re confiding in them, and they’re giving you malice information so they can slide right in. Just be careful with whom you call a friend and watch out for frenemies!

Have you ever dealt with a platonic relationship? Please share a story.

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Mental Points For Success

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How do you measure success? Do you think someone is successful because they’re rich? Or because they’re happy with what they have? There are many levels of success in life. I don’t measure success by the amount of money someone is worth. I measure success by the happiness in my life and the ones that mean the most to me. If I wasn’t able to give to my family, I wouldn’t be happy with in. I not only want success, I want my loved ones right there with me enjoying success too. Yes, money can buy you lots of opportunity and support your family. But it can’t buy you true love. Here are a few key points I use to help guide me towards peak performance for reaching success.

  1. Goals
    Setting performance/result goals by our actions and determination. Goals make us take risks; not setting goals allows us to float in life with no wish to carry out anything.
  2. Focus and Control
    Focusing on your performance is the outcome of a thought. Bad thoughts= bad performance, good thoughts= good performance. Focus on controlling yourself, which is important when trying to reach your goals.
  3. Expectations
    Expectation takes focus off self and puts it on others who we do not have control over. Expect others to fail you and expect to recover from failure. We can’t learn if we’re not taking risks.
  4. Dedication
    High achievers are willing and want to work hard. If something is worth doing, it is worth doing well. Be confident, have self-discipline, and be dedicated
  5. Responsibility
    We want to feel loved and gain approval from others. We avoid responsibility to protect the love we want from others. But we are not perfect and must be willing to accept consequences.
  6. Attitudes
    A good attitude is when we believe and have hope when others quit. Maintain a not going to give up attitude, and think positively about your decisions.
  7. Learn
    Ask yourself what do I need to do differently next time? What does the right way look like? You have to ask questions. Learn from others who have walked the same path.
  8. Visualization
    Visualize yourself in the situation. A clear picture programs the body and increases chances for success.
  9. Mental Discipline
    Our thoughts influence our actions. Focus on a positive mantra. When faced with pressure see it as a challenge, an opportunity to succeed.
  10. The Winning Way
    A winner has goals, blocks out expectations of others, devotion, responsible, has a good attitude, confidence, prepares, focuses and thinks positively.

It’s never too late to retrain your mind to do better with your life. If you’re blessed to see another day, take full advantage of it and strive for greatness. What steps do you take for reaching your goals?

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The Time Is Now…

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“For it is God who works in you to will and to act according to his good purpose. Do everything without complaining or arguing, so that you may become blameless and pure, children of God without fault in a crooked and depraved generation, in which you shine like stars in the universe” Philippians 4:13-15

Happy Friday!

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Random Acts Of Kindness

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Neither filthiness, nor foolish talking, nor jesting, which are not convenient: but rather giving of thanks. (Ephesians 5:4 KJV)

Let’s all focus on being thankful today. Counting our blessings and spreading happiness to others. I plan on doing at least one act of kindness for a stranger today. If your reading this post, thank you. I hope I influence you to spread love and happiness today.

If you make a difference in a strangers life today please share your story.

Meet Juan below. Stranger asking for money to eat today. I obliged his request with enough money for a meal.

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How Deep Is Your Love?

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Ever feel so deeply in love that you start to lose focus? Maybe you’re in a marriage, committed relationship, or dating someone new. Your brain can interfere with staying focused. Recently I read an article from Men’s Health that breaks down how your body reacts when you’re near your Boo. You can check it out here. After reading I recalled those times I actually felt butterflies in my stomach. An anxious, nervous feeling around the person I was crushing on. Re-checking myself in the mirror, making sure lipstick wasn’t smeared on my teeth or tart breath. Focusing on my exterior and not my interior, I blocked my natural attributes to shine. Didn’t realize I was displaying signs of insecurity not confidence. I’m sure I ran a few guys off from potentially pursuing a relationship.
If you ask me today how deep is my love? I’ll say the love I have for myself is unbreakable. I know I can’t expect someone to love me if I truly don’t love myself. Yes, I learned the hard way when it comes to dating and it was well worth it. I now love everyone in my life deeply, the good and the bad. But I don’t expect anyone to love me as much as I love myself. All I ask is to respect me and love me for my flaws and all. No longer feel the need to over compensate for my shortcomings. I’m opening up other sides of me for others to like/love. I’m silly without worry of judgement. Able to cry without hiding my tears. I’m human and a woman that’s connected to her emotional side. So love deep, but love yourself first.”Have a perfect love for imperfect people”

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Hot Hollywood Sex

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Ever watch a love scene in a movie and wish it was you? One of my top sex scenes happens to be from the movie “Belly”. Starring actors: DMX (Tommy), Nas (Sincere), Taral Hicks (Kisha), Tionne Watkins (Tionne), Method Man (Shemeek), and a few other. Taral Hicks played actor DMX girlfriend, and Tionne Watkins played as Nas woman. Tommy and Sincere were two street criminals running a drug dealing empire in New York City. Of course when you have a high rolling drug dealer as your boyfriend you’re going to suspect him to have groupies around. Kisha played a confident character whom didn’t take any BS. She decides to go thru Tommy’s pager while he was showering. Deciding to call a number in his pager, she reached a younger girl on the other end of the receiver. The young lady explains to Kisha that she hasn’t had sex with Tommy yet, because he told her she’s too young. She has sucked his dick a few time though. At this point Kisha is livid and hangs up the telephone, walks aggressively into the bathroom where Tommy was showering. (Oh don’t let me forget to mention the director shows a naked DMX shower scene). What a nice looking specimen. Kisha screams at Tommy demanding for him to explain who was the girl, before leaving out of the bathroom upset. Tommy rushes out the shower without a towel after Kisha and forcefully grabs her. Shaking her a little trying to explain that he was innocent. While Kisha cried in Tommy’s arms he aggressively kisses Kisha and begins to rip off her clothes. Throwing her on the bed in a brute like behavior. Growling as he vigorously gives it to Kisha. Once they finished Tommy get’s up and gets dress as Kisha lays in bed looking satisfied and at peace for the moment.

Ignoring the fact he used sex to shut her up. I got excited he handled her in a robustly way. Taking control of her by using his strength to please her sexual needs. As a woman I sometimes like for a man to take the lead without me having to say what I want. Even though Kisha didn’t say she wanted to have sex with Tommy. He knew right then and there how to shut her up and give himself to her. I’m not saying what he did was right or wrong, I’m just saying sometimes it’s good to just have wild animal style sex when you’re bothered.

Do you have a favorite love scene from a movie? If so, due share.

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