This year so many people I know have been struggling in difficult situations. I’m one of them. Balancing life, love, blogging, relationships, friends, and not having time for myself. A few weeks ago I meet the CEO of my current job along with a few other co-workers. She was asked ” How do you balance your work with having a family?”. Her answer was, ” I don’t think you really want to hear this answer, because there is no balance. You just figure out how to deal with both at the same time. You live and you learn from previous mistakes.” Hearing those words helped me out tremendously, because I’m struggling with not having enough time for me.
I’m working over 50 hours a week, and when the weekend comes have a pile of errands that all need to get done. Then I wonder how am I going to have time for friends or just pampering myself with a mani-pedi? A lot of people depend on my fortitude to help get them through difficult situations. I understand the blessing I have as their motivator. Now I’m wondering if I’ll ever be able to reach a certain point in life where everything comes easy without the unfortunate lack of will power.
I pray daily for the strength to get through worries, and for guidance to make the best decisions, then thank the man above for all the blessings I have. Seems everyone I’ve been coming across has burdens. But we can’t lose our faith. Believe it, there is light at the end of the tunnel. This too shall pass and we will be able to get through these tough times. I work on becoming a better person daily and I’m not quitting! So our new mantra will be ” The struggle is real, but I will prevail.”
Are you dealing with hard times in life right now? If so how are you getting through them?
Do you know how to meditate? When we escape from our thoughts and concerns, we’re allowing ourselves to bring stillness to our minds. This is known as meditation. Meditating can be very challenging to master. We’re all capable of accomplishing by practicing. Understand, meditation is a journey. The purpose is to calm the mind, achieve inter peace, and reach a higher spiritual dimension. You don’t necessary have to sit in a dark room for an hour to reap the benefits of relaxation. You can train your mind to focus solely on your breathing when you need to bring stillness to your thoughts. Start by inhaling deeply, follow by exhaling with the same flow. Bringing your attention solely on your breath, feel your chest raise and fall while your lungs expand and deflate. If your minds starts to wonder with distracting thoughts, channel them by chanting a mantra of choice. Silently repeat the mantra over and over to yourself as you meditate, allowing the word or phrase to whisper through your mind.
For those who are new to meditation, it’s especially important to avoid distractions while practicing. Turn off the TV, your phone, and remove yourself from loud noises. You can listen to calming music or the sound of a small water fountain running. Your meditation space does not need completely silent. All you need is the ability to concentrate on yourself for how ever long you choose to meditate. You should try and meditate at the same time every day. This way your meditation will quickly become a part of your everyday routine and you will feel its benefits much more profoundly.
Join me everyday this week tracking your experiences with meditation. Let us know what benefits you have seen.
Dealing with a head cold last week; I had to push myself to keep going each day. I wanted to stay in bed and sleep the sickness away. Boy do I wish I was rich enough to just shut off my phone, ignore my emails, and forget about all my bills. Unfortunately that’s not my life and I have to work when I’m sick. I used a lot of mental strength to get me through each day, determined to do my best as if I was healthy. Telling myself this too shall past and I’ll be back to my normal self soon enough. Thinking positively about my sickness and how this will only make me stronger. If I can continue to do my best I’ll prove to myself that I can do what ever I set my mind to.
I’m about 90% better. My love for seeing myself succeed is undeniable and I’m not stopping until, I can ignore my emails or the world because I’ll have freedom of time and money.
“Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.”-Miguel Ruiz
How do you measure success? Do you think someone is successful because they’re rich? Or because they’re happy with what they have? There are many levels of success in life. I don’t measure success by the amount of money someone is worth. I measure success by the happiness in my life and the ones that mean the most to me. If I wasn’t able to give to my family, I wouldn’t be happy with in. I not only want success, I want my loved ones right there with me enjoying success too. Yes, money can buy you lots of opportunity and support your family. But it can’t buy you true love. Here are a few key points I use to help guide me towards peak performance for reaching success.
Setting performance/result goals by our actions and determination. Goals make us take risks; not setting goals allows us to float in life with no wish to carry out anything.
- Focus and Control
Focusing on your performance is the outcome of a thought. Bad thoughts= bad performance, good thoughts= good performance. Focus on controlling yourself, which is important when trying to reach your goals.
Expectation takes focus off self and puts it on others who we do not have control over. Expect others to fail you and expect to recover from failure. We can’t learn if we’re not taking risks.
High achievers are willing and want to work hard. If something is worth doing, it is worth doing well. Be confident, have self-discipline, and be dedicated
We want to feel loved and gain approval from others. We avoid responsibility to protect the love we want from others. But we are not perfect and must be willing to accept consequences.
A good attitude is when we believe and have hope when others quit. Maintain a not going to give up attitude, and think positively about your decisions.
Ask yourself what do I need to do differently next time? What does the right way look like? You have to ask questions. Learn from others who have walked the same path.
Visualize yourself in the situation. A clear picture programs the body and increases chances for success.
- Mental Discipline
Our thoughts influence our actions. Focus on a positive mantra. When faced with pressure see it as a challenge, an opportunity to succeed.
- The Winning Way
A winner has goals, blocks out expectations of others, devotion, responsible, has a good attitude, confidence, prepares, focuses and thinks positively.
It’s never too late to retrain your mind to do better with your life. If you’re blessed to see another day, take full advantage of it and strive for greatness. What steps do you take for reaching your goals?
Ever hear the expression “Patience is a virtue”? This method can be challenging when you’re in a heated situation. The phrase tells us to gather our thoughts and pause before reacting. Frustration, desperation, evil thoughts, or dealing with an antagonizing individual requires deeper thoughts than the surface. During an agitated moment we overcome these obstacles by not letting the problem get the best of our character. People will push our buttons, scream in our face, belittle our intelligence with insults, or put their hands on us. If we engage in this behavior we’re allowing the situation to get the best of us. Ultimately it puts us in danger.
Once I started practicing Yoga I’ve learned how to focus on my breathing. Yoga taught me to breath deeply when my heart rate is racing uncontrollably. I over came my struggles with anxiety. Using this exercise brings stillness to my mind and calms a stressful situation for me. Focusing only on my breathing and not frustration really helps with walking away when I’m angry, listening to others without rebuttal, and taking control of the situation at hand. Yes, we all want to set people straight and give them a piece of our minds, but what does fighting accomplish?
Next time you’re dealing with negative gossip among co-workers, road rage, a disagreement with your life partner, or any difficult problem. Take a moment to breathe through it. Try counting to three when you inhale and exhale. Doing so will give you clarity and assist in making the right decision.
How do you overcome a hostile situation?
Life is a challenge! One thing I have noticed is my focus is everywhere, but on myself. If you aren’t the best; how can you be the best for others? This section will bring you back to center. We will incorporate spirituality; through mantras, scents and all things that make you feel comfortable. In order to feel the best, YOU have to be surround by IT. Spirituality,a clean house, a bubble bath, a good book and most important something bigger than you is key. I don’t care who or what you believe in, but everyone needs a higher power or belief they can indulge in. This section is about feeling good: everything from candles and bubble baths to mantras and yoga poses. Use #wednesdaywellness to connect spirituality with others.
by Elise R.