Self-esteem

Searching For Attention

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Browsing through Instagram yesterday; I came across a picture that got me thinking. How important is it to have meaningful relationships? By, not just dealing with people to seem cool, but having tangible relationships with them. I see so many people posting images, seeking attention for all the wrong reasons. Attention is a helluva drug. We all want it; but at what cost? Do we risk losing our self-worth or degrade ourselves for it? Humans need their ego’s boosted. We thrive off feeling important. You have to differentiate between meaningful attention vs. popularity attention. Ask yourself: what are you really gaining from likes from strangers on your exposed photos? Or, are you seeking likes to help boost your confidence?

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Focusing on if you get likes on your photos only weakens your confidence. “Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder”, which means what you see as beautiful someone else might not understand your vision. Have people in your life that will support you and your dreams by helping you reach them. Not by showing off your body to strangers on Instagram for popularity. But, by pushing you to stay on the right path to reach your goals. If you’re seeking attention, try finding it through people whom are driven and determined to get success. Find friends that are working towards their dreams, so they can influence you to work towards yours. Be a positive influence in life by showing the world your achievements, not by revealing how great you look naked. Trust me ladies, men like women that’s driven with goals. Yes, they like to chase after women that come easy, but keep in mind. Easy come easy go.

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Always Do Your Best

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Dealing with a head cold last week; I had to push myself to keep going each day. I wanted to stay in bed and sleep the sickness away. Boy do I wish I was rich enough to just shut off my phone, ignore my emails, and forget about all my bills. Unfortunately that’s not my life and I have to work when I’m sick. I used a lot of mental strength to get me through each day, determined to do my best as if I was healthy. Telling myself this too shall past and I’ll be back to my normal self soon enough. Thinking positively about my sickness and how this will only make me stronger. If I can continue to do my best I’ll prove to myself that I can do what ever I set my mind to. 

I’m about 90% better. My love for seeing myself succeed is undeniable and I’m not stopping until, I can ignore my emails or the world because I’ll have freedom of time and money.

“Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.”-Miguel Ruiz

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Start Each Day With A Clean Slate

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Yesterday is now in our past. Today is our current future, and tomorrow is not promised to us. Keeping a clear mind each day will open opportunity in our lives.  If you had a rough night, but were blessed to wake up to a new day. You have another chance to make a change. Start this week off with positive ways you can make a difference in your life. Let go of yesterdays baggage and open good fortune towards your future.

Starting today and carrying throughout the rest of our lives. Let go of useless clutter in your mind. Begin with a healthy breakfast to start your day.  Planning ahead. Organize your schedule with a to-do list. Arrive at work ahead of time to get a jump-start on your work load. Maybe even a 10 minute meditation before you start answering your emails, or driving to drop your kids off at school. It’s very important you take time for yourself to clear out unproductive thoughts.

You hold the key to your success. Don’t allow another day to pass without grabbing a hold of yourself and shaking off the negativity. We’re all born with many talents. We just need to bring out our gifts. It starts with a clear mind!

How do you plan on starting your Monday me?

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Heart To Heart

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Good friends are hard to find, solid ones are rare, and trusting them can be challenging. When you have supportive friends that you can call on in your life it’s a blessing. Feeling overwhelmed and lonely, I reached out to a childhood friend to console me. As soon as my girlfriend picked up and asked how I was, she immediately knew I wasn’t doing well. I started crying. I knew I could release my emotions to her without judgement. I told her through sobs and tears what was bothering me. She listened and right away I felt better. She told me “you’re a strong woman, and people think you can handle everything because you’re strong, I’m sorry I haven’t been there for you and I will do better.” Hearing those words made me realize how much I missed her being in my life and why she’s one of my best friends. She understands me and knows that I’m a sensitive person, who needs a little love every now and then. As women we carry our stress as weight on our shoulders; fearing if we express ourselves others will twist our emotions and use them against us.

I’m very thankful to have true friends in my life. They helped me develop who I am today. Even when we think we don’t want to worry others with our problems, it’s best to reconnect with your loved ones. Encourage each other and support one another. That one phone call helped bring my confidence back and I felt loved again. I thank the special people in my life who support me and believe in me. You guys mean the world to me. To my followers who read my blog posts, thank you for the support and I pray I will help you in anyway I can when you need someone to relate to. We might not know each other, but we’re dealing with the same challenges in life. Let’s work on them together!

Who do you lean on when you need a heart to heart?

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Treat Yo Self Day

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Valentine’s day is one of the busiest nights to dine out. It’s ok if you don’t have a date this year to celebrate. I have some nifty ideas to occupy your mind. Instead of sitting at home moping on why you’re single or how much you hate your ex. Why not spend the time treating yourself? You can take yourself to the movies, quiet time at a spa, or shopping. This day is not just for couples. It’s all about love and we should all know by now, you can’t truly love someone else if you don’t love yourself first.

Switch things up this year by spending time with your single friends. Compliment each other, tell one another how awesome they are and why they’re important to you. There’s nothing wrong with buying yourself flowers. If you want them, go get them and smell those roses. Just keep in mind you hold the key to your happiness and sometimes we have to make ourselves happy by treating ourselves with gifts or a little R&R. We should be spreading love everyday! (I digress)

If you want to change a disheartened past into a celebration, here are a few tips:
1. Spa date
2. Go to the movies
3. Treat yourself to something special
4. Hit up a bar and socialize
5. Karaoke
6. Party at your place with your single friends
7. Mani-Pedi
8. Accomplish one of your goals
9. Organize something you’ve been putting off
10. Bubble bath with a glass of wine and candles

 

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If you’re single let us know what’s your plans for Valentine’s day.

First Lady Style

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No one can deny that our first lady Michelle Obama has impeccable style. She’s a classy woman that know’s how to capture our attention with her unparalleled looks, more than previous first ladies. This Tuesday Trend is all about our First Lady Michelle Obama’s styles.
Check out some of her best moments here.
You rock Ms Michelle Obama!
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What Motivates You?

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Does fitting into a size smaller dress you bought at a bargain price, motivate you to work out?  How about challenging co-works to the biggest weight loser?  Whatever you use to push yourself, we all still need positive encouragement to stay focused on our goals.  If you don’t have  a reliable workout partner to drag your butt to the gym, you can use other strategies to keep you centered.

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Create a workout playlist with upbeat music. I listen to Workout-Dance/Pop created by Natasha Hussein. Listening to music while changing can jump-start your warm up. You’ll be dancing to the beats, pumping yourself up for a great workout ahead.  Also burning calories before you start your workout routine.  Visualize wearing that smaller size dress, strutting your stuff as admirable compliments flow.  Picture a healthier you while imagining how great you’re going to look as you drop those extra pounds. You can even use a role model to help with transitioning to a healthier you. Whom do you admire most?  Post a picture somewhere where you can look daily to remind you why won’t give up until you see results.

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Stay far away from negative people while you’re focusing on an improved exterior.  They can have a toxic effect on your interior and cause you to lose track of what’s really important.  Which is self-gratification.  Hey, I don’t write these blog posts for nothing. Use this blog as a tool, knowing I’m here with you struggling in the same life battles.  We can be each others support system. We can do it!

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How Deep Is Your Love?

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Ever feel so deeply in love that you start to lose focus? Maybe you’re in a marriage, committed relationship, or dating someone new. Your brain can interfere with staying focused. Recently I read an article from Men’s Health that breaks down how your body reacts when you’re near your Boo. You can check it out here. After reading I recalled those times I actually felt butterflies in my stomach. An anxious, nervous feeling around the person I was crushing on. Re-checking myself in the mirror, making sure lipstick wasn’t smeared on my teeth or tart breath. Focusing on my exterior and not my interior, I blocked my natural attributes to shine. Didn’t realize I was displaying signs of insecurity not confidence. I’m sure I ran a few guys off from potentially pursuing a relationship.
If you ask me today how deep is my love? I’ll say the love I have for myself is unbreakable. I know I can’t expect someone to love me if I truly don’t love myself. Yes, I learned the hard way when it comes to dating and it was well worth it. I now love everyone in my life deeply, the good and the bad. But I don’t expect anyone to love me as much as I love myself. All I ask is to respect me and love me for my flaws and all. No longer feel the need to over compensate for my shortcomings. I’m opening up other sides of me for others to like/love. I’m silly without worry of judgement. Able to cry without hiding my tears. I’m human and a woman that’s connected to her emotional side. So love deep, but love yourself first.”Have a perfect love for imperfect people”

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How Not To Hit Or Yell During A Hostile Situation

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Ever hear the expression “Patience is a virtue”? This method can be challenging when you’re in a heated situation. The phrase tells us to gather our thoughts and pause before reacting. Frustration, desperation, evil thoughts, or dealing with an antagonizing individual requires deeper thoughts than the surface. During an agitated moment we overcome these obstacles by not letting the problem get the best of our character.  People will push our buttons, scream in our face, belittle our intelligence with insults, or put their hands on us. If we engage in this behavior we’re allowing the situation to get the best of us. Ultimately it puts us in danger.

Once I started practicing Yoga I’ve learned how to focus on my breathing. Yoga taught me to breath deeply when my heart rate is racing uncontrollably. I over came my struggles with anxiety.  Using this exercise brings stillness to my mind and calms a stressful situation for me. Focusing only on my breathing and not frustration really helps with walking away when I’m angry, listening to others without rebuttal, and taking control of the situation at hand. Yes, we all want to set people straight and give them a piece of our minds, but what does fighting accomplish?

Next time you’re dealing with negative gossip among co-workers, road rage, a disagreement with your life partner, or any difficult problem. Take a moment to breathe through it. Try counting to three when you inhale and exhale. Doing so will give you clarity and assist in making the right decision.

How do you overcome a hostile situation?

Wednesday Wellness

Creating The Perfect Brow

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Do you favor waxing your eyebrows or threading? I get my eyebrows waxed every two weeks from “my friend” Hanna, at my local nail salon. My eyebrows are naturally thin. To make a perfect arch I fill them in with makeup. I recently started following Kelley Baker Brow on Instagram. The way she shapes her clients eyebrows are beyond perfection. She has a Brow studio in Venice, Ca. Her tips help me shape my eyebrows without paying for a professional makeup artist.

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I start with Spiked Eye Brow Crayon to outline the brows, following the shape of my brows with Studio Finish Concealer (NW40). Then use brush number 266 for blending the concealer into my brow lid. These products can be purchased here. This process opens up my face and highlights on my eyes. You can even hide the fact you’re in-between appointments with this technique.

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Waxing fits right in my budget; I’m still able to get the perfect brow with a little makeup. I’ve done threading before, but can’t handle the fact they hold the strings with their mouth. I’m kind of weird about personal hygiene stuff like that… I always think they might slip and the string falls on me from their mouth. OMG I would totally freak out! Has that ever happened to anyone?

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Which method  do you prefer?